I recently managed to hug someone who didn’t want to be hugged. I mean I actually hugged them and it was inappropriate for several reasons, including the fact that I didn’t know them too well. LOL
I don’t really know why I did it, maybe it was instinctual, but that’s not the point.
Point is I’ve learnt some more from this event.
After doing it I felt like crap. Had this huge gap in my stomach and I couldn’t believe it. Felt sick and completely stressed from my irrational gesture. And I couldn’t control it. Substances levels were high and it felt like I’ve done the worst thing in the world. I again couldn’t believe it. From a bloody hug.
The whole thing troubled me. I mean, I admit it was inappropriate and such and I agree with the fact that I should control myself better, but what I didn’t understand is why such fear. Why did it just grab me like that. Why did a simple inappropriate thing turn me into pieces like it was the end of the world?
I eventually managed to calm down, but I still didn’t understand why it went that bad. Why my heart kept on racing to the brink of madness with fear. Fear of being inappropriate. Fear of upsetting others. Fear of being rejected. And so on.
In the end I think people don’t hug enough these days. Everybody must have their personal space. Everything is truly distant. I’m not speaking of my hug but in general.
So you know what? Why don’t you try and a give a hug per day. It really doesn’t matter to whom. Whomever might welcome one. Just do it. Be sure to smell nice and not be sweaty when you do it, and go on. DO IT.
And as we’re on the subject… Why don’t you go on and do something you’re scared of today. Better yet something that you feel to be inappropriate, although it really isn’t… Like telling the cashier what the problem is, or telling someone you like them, or smile at strangers.
When did we become so scared that so many things are now inappropriate? When did we forget we’re actually human beings and we’re bound to mistakes? To instincts. To life.
Anyway this ain’t such a good text, but I’m sure my new friend, Bertie, would appreciate it. LOL
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