As I’m feeling somewhat more relaxed this morning… I will speak a little on decisions.
I recently came to the conclusion that you must be satisfied with your decisions. We make them everyday. I know, I again discovered hot water, but I had to make a point on this.
Some decisions don’t matter much. We have to be careful with all the others.
I had to make a very hard decision. I won’t tell y’all what it was all about, but I’ll let you know of an analogy. It was like having a cavity which hurt and having to decide whether to go to the dentist or not (those who are scared of the dentist will know what I’m speaking of). So whichever path I took, going to the dentist or not, the pain would still have been there. If I’d go to the medic, there’d be some pain but then the situation would be somewhat solved and the pain would go away. If I wouldn’t, then God knows what lengths the pain would reach.
In this kind of situation, a somewhat normal brain would choose the optimal solution. That’s the one with most advantages and fewest risks.
That would be going to the dentist, naturally.
Now I totally hate going to the dentist and it’s a hard step. So are many decisions in life.
As I said in the beginning, I think it’s crucial you go full speed with your decision. You can take whatever time you need to make it (although that’s not always an option), but once you make it… Don’t look back. Don’t regret it.
We humans will always make mistakes. It’s part of the human condition. However, again, once you chose to go one way… Don’t look back.
My brain isn’t that normal. I don’t know to what extent it’s not normal, but I surely know about the OCD part.
See, a while ago, I had to make another troubling decision. To make another analogy… It was something like having to choose between the two main goals of your life. For a while anyway. Like not being able to work at both goals in the same time. Now that would not’ve been a problem if it wasn’t for the time question. As in… I’m not getting any younger.
Now… I had to make this decision in stressful times too. In addition, trying to work on both goals at the same time was somewhat impossible and, if tried, it could’ve brought more disadvantages than advantages.
Well my brain obviously chose the optimal decision. That being working on one goal. And the whole thing started going so well with the first goal that the second one faded a bit. But ever since making that decision, with my brain being an OCD brain, there hasn’t been a day when it didn’t spank me at least a bit for not following my second goal. Better yet, for not accepting the more risky situation instead of going for the optimal choice.
I have to agree in part. The risky situation could’ve brought many more rewards, but it was truly risky and there were other reasons too for which I chose the other option. Eventually (although, as I said, my goals are subject to time and time is short) I’ll get to fulfil my second goal too. The only condition for that is staying alive and working on the first goal fast so I start working on the second one whilst still young.
I don’t feel fulfilled. Moreover, my brain just won’t stop showing me that. I also have a problem with making decisions and taking risks. I stray a decision for as long as I can just so I don’t have to take any risks. I don’t like risks. Not one bit.
However, as I previously quoted, failure and risks are parts of success. It’s standing still that is the true failure.
Sometimes in life, you’ll have to make the worst decisions. When faced which such things, after thinking about all the options, do it fast, like pulling a band-aid from your arm and then don’t look back, don’t think about it. There surely were more options than the ones you thought of, sometimes you’ll be inexperienced, other times you won’t have the time to make the best decision. Don’t stress about it. You’re allowed to go wrong.
Just remember sometimes those desitions, they came back to bite you on the ass. Like one I made nearly 10years ago. At the time it was the right thing to do for the family, now it’s going to cost me my home….
But hey, shit happens, but unfortunately it always happens to me.
Newton’s third law: law of reciprocal actions.
For a force there is always an equal and opposite reaction: or the forces of two bodies on each other are always equal and are directed in opposite directions.
Action, reaction, simple they balance each other out, or cancel.
Life doesn’t quite work like that for me, I made a choice for myself this weekend, it filled me with happy thoughts, but as with all my choices to change my world something comes along that could cripple it before it has even progressed beyond the planning….
Today I really need a hug.
To Chris,
Its interesting that you say that life doesn’t quite work that way for you because although the theory sounds nice and pleasant i don’t think Life ever quite works that way for anyone. Life is not fit to the straight lines that human beings have tried to put it into. Rather Life is a mystery and things are constantly changing so how can it possibly be that something happens and then something HAS to happen of equal value. Where should value ever come in an why is there even a judgement of what is equal or what is not equal, we are only fooling ourselves in such an order, a facade.
Everything happens because it happens. We are capable of making decision and then with that decision comes an outcome, which is neither right or wrong but just what it is suppose to be based on universal order, not individual order.
Very good insights!
Every outcome comes from within, we just choose not to take responsibility. The fact is, is that we are experiencing this body but there is something that goes beyond it that we cannot explain. If we could explain it, well… then life becomes meaningless to many, stagnant, becomes the known, a set number of outcomes, fear begins to set in.
Lizzy good post. I like what you’ve said and if you have anything to add or any ideas to bat around to help, please do! <3